This is the third and final article in a series Julia Swan has written on communication advice for bottoms (aka submissives) during kinky scene play. The information she gives is valuable for any type of sexual play. To read the first article, go here. As a bottom, one powerful tool in co-creating successful scene play is […]
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Speak Up: A Bottom’s Guide to Pre-Scene Communication
This is the second in a three-part series. As bottoms, many of us are naturally inclined to serve others, take pleasure in others’ pleasure, and put our own desires last. As we saw in the last article, we often struggle even to name our needs and wants. And once we have done the work of looking inward […]
Speak Up: Self-Advocacy as a Bottom
This is the first in a three-part series. Bottoms, have you ever been disappointed after kinky play? Have you ever not asked someone to play, or said no because you were too nervous about how it might go? Have you hesitated to end a scene or asked for an adjustment because of how it might […]
