Here is a list of resources that may help expand your skills, your support and social circles, and your sensual life.
ON THIS PAGE:
- Sex-Positivity in the News
- Ethical Porn, Adult Audio, and Erotic Fiction
- International Kink, Polyam and Swinger Resources
- Chicago Health and Social Services
- Chicago Kink Resources
- Chicago Polyamory and Consensual Non-Monogamy Events
- Therapeutic Directories
- Trans Resources
- Support for Those Experiencing Sexual Assault/Abuse
- Surrogate Partner Resources
Sex-Positivity in the News
National Coalition for Sexual Freedom | Current round-up of sex-positive news: legislations, trends, issues, etc.
ETHICAL PORN, ADULT AUDIO, AND EROTIC FICTION
Check out these sites that offer sexy, feminist, and inclusive content. In ethical porn, workers are treated fairly and there are ethical production practices; different body types, races, and genders are represented; and depictions of safer sex and consent usually appear onscreen.
REAL PEOPLE PORN
PORN USING ACTORS (some sites include fiction and audio)
KINK-FOCUSED
QUEER-FOCUSED
ART HOUSE
EROTIC AUDIO
EROTIC FICTION
REDDIT RECS
International Kink, Polyam and Swinger Resources
Fetlife | The Facebook of kink. Worldwide. Use it to find local and international people and events, online meetups and tutorials, among many things…
Kink And Poly Aware Professionals Directory | Service offered by the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom dedicated to providing the community with a listing of psychotherapeutic, medical, legal and other professionals who have stated that they are knowledgeable about and sensitive to diverse expressions of sexuality.
Meetup.com | While Meetup is mostly a non-sexual resource for hobbyists and special interest groups, there are a number of pleasure-based (e.g., Tantra and mindful sexuality) and kink groups operating out of many US cities that are now doing online events. When you join, expand your search to encompass a larger area or search city by city if you’d like to connect with them.
SwingersLifeStyle | Links to swinger clubs, parties, cruises in the US and around the world.
Chicago Health and Social Services
Howard Brown Health | Lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) organization based in Chicago, United States. Initially a healthcare provider, it now provides health and social services in several locations in the Chicago area.
Center on Halsted | Largest LGBTQ community center in the Midwest.
Sex Workers Outreach Project-Chicago (SWOP-Chicago) | Grassroots organization dedicated to improving the lives of current and former sex workers in the Chicago area.
SWOP Legal Services The SWOP-Chicago CALA (Community Activism Law Alliance) Clinic is a free, full-service legal clinic for individuals currently or previously involved in adult industries/sex work or impacted by the stigma and criminalization of sex work. It provides a wide-range of criminal and civil law services from advice and community legal education to representation. Contact: or 872-228-7532 (SWOP) or 312-999-0056 (CALA)
Chicago Kink Resources
Many with online live events now, accessible internationally
GENERAL
Leather Archives & Museum | In addition to its museum, LAM has events and a great library where you can do research on various kinks.
DUNGEONS
Galleria Domain (GD2) | Usually open Thursday-Sunday on Chicago’s northside. GD2 has a number of scheduled events, including those for newcomers and beginners.
LRA Chicago | On Chicago’s northside near Wrigleyville. LRA has scheduled events, including a regular open house for newcomers.
EROTIC HYPNOSIS
Mesmer Hypnosis Group Chicago | Meets monthly. Listing on Fetlife.
SOCIAL
Munches: Munches are social events where kinky folks can meet one another in a public space, wearing casual street attire. They’re especially good for people new to the kink scene. For the most complete list of scheduled munches in your area, go to Fetlife.com
Chicago Munches (partial list):
• Chicago POC Munch (Northside) – Monthly. On FetLife under Chicago People of Color
• Chicago POC Munch (Southside) – Monthly. On FetLife under Chicago People of Color
• Lakeview Munch – Chicago – Every other Wednesday. 7:30-10:30pm. Group is on FetLife
• Rogers Park/Edgewater Munch – Wednesdays monthly. 7-9pm. Group is on FetLife
• TCNG Munch – Chicago (for 18-35 y.o. and partners) – Tuesdays weekly. 7:30-9:30pm. Group is on FetLife.
Chicago Polyamory and Consensual Non‑Monogamy Events
Many with online live events now, accessible internationally
The following events are not swinger or play parties, or pick-up events. They are geared toward providing more information for people interested in open relationships who want to meet others socially and/or get support.
Chicago Poly Cocktails | 2nd Monday of the month. Lakeview Chicago. See www.meetup.com under Chicago Polyamory Meetup Group. Also listed on Facebook under Chicago Poly Connection.
Chicago Poly Support Group | Usually first Saturday of the month. See www.meetup.com under Chicago Polyamory Meetup Group.
Therapeutic Directories
American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) | International listing
Association of Certified Sexological Bodyworkers
Chicago Black Therapists | Can be searched for various sex-positive specialties.
Somatic Sex Educators Association | International listing
TRANS RESOURCES
Trans Essentials | Gear for folx wanting to affirm their identity (This is an affiliate link. Purchasing through this link also supports Wild & Sublime!)
National Center for Transgender Equality | US news, issures, and advocacy.
Support for Those Experiencing Sexual Assault/Abuse
SEXUAL ASSAULT
National Sexual Assault Hotline 800.656.HOPE (4673). More info on rainn.org
Sexual Assault brochures (en español)
WHAT DOES CONSENT LOOK LIKE?
What Does Consent Look Like? | This resource clearly covers aspects of consent, plus an overview of how to stay safe in ride-share situations as well as a compilation of information around different instances and categories of sexual violence.
KINK-INFORMED GUIDANCE ON ASSAULT
QUESTIONS ABOUT UNHEALTHY RELATIONSHIPS?
Love Is Respect (en español; deaf services) | A project of the National Domestic Violence Hotline, love is respect offers 24/7 information, support, and advocacy to young people between the ages of 13 and 26 who have questions or concerns about their romantic relationships.
Technology Safety – Do You Think Someone Is Monitoring Your Tech?
CHICAGO/COOK COUNTY/ILLINOIS SERVICES
Surrogate Partner Resources
Surrogate Partner Collective | Cultivating a world of embodied connection
Embrace | Surrogate Partner Therapy Resource Group
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