At each Wild & Sublime, audience members submit anonymous questions to a panel comprised of various sexuality and gender experts. Karen Yates, somatic sex educator and producer/host of Wild & Sublime, responds to one of the questions submitted by the audience. Fear of jealousy is one of the reasons more people don’t try group sex—fear that when you […]
Guest Interview: Expanding Your Sexual Horizons
Many people want to expand their sexual lives and practices, but aren’t sure how to begin. When we find ourselves in a rut, it’s hard to think up new ideas. We asked Bruce, event director at Kinky Kollege and guest on Wild & Sublime, a few questions on broadening one’s sensual life. Q: What’s the best […]
Desire Discrepancy with Dr. Pia Holec
Karen Yates interviews Chicago sex therapist Dr. Pia Holec about desire discrepancy—when one person in an intimate relationship has a different level of sexual desire (or a differing type of desire) than the other. Here, Dr. Pia shares one approach to bring couples together. This interview has been condensed from the live February 2020 show interview, […]
Nonbinary: What’s Up with That? Logan Pierce explains
Karen Yates interviews Logan Pierce, program coordinator of TransMentor, the mentorship program for trans youth at Chicago’s Lurie Children’s Hospital. This is part of the podcast’s ongoing “What’s Up with That?” segment about words in the sexual lexicon that can be confusing. Karen Yates: Logan, let’s chat about the word “nonbinary.” What’s up with that? Logan Pierce: […]
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Speak Up: Mid-Scene and Post-Scene Communication for Bottoms
This is the third and final article in a series Julia Swan has written on communication advice for bottoms (aka submissives) during kinky scene play. The information she gives is valuable for any type of sexual play. To read the first article, go here. As a bottom, one powerful tool in co-creating successful scene play is […]
SERMON ON THE PUBIC MOUND: It’s Wild & Sublime
Who knew the legal system could bring an abundance of sexy introspection? Host and creator Karen Yates discusses why the show was re-named Wild & Sublime. Around September 2019 my lawyer told me I needed to change the name of the show because companies that had similar names would litigate. It wasn’t that they would win necessarily, […]
SERMON ON THE PUBIC MOUND: I’m a Weirdo, Too
This SOPM has been adapted from the December 2019 show. If you’ve been to a live show, you know that I usually finish with something called Sermon on the Pubic Mound®, a motivational-cum-summation piece. (And thanks, Latin, for getting to cum before porn did. I’m sorry we’ve declared you dead. I appreciate you.) Anyway, in the […]
Speak Up: A Bottom’s Guide to Pre-Scene Communication
This is the second in a three-part series. As bottoms, many of us are naturally inclined to serve others, take pleasure in others’ pleasure, and put our own desires last. As we saw in the last article, we often struggle even to name our needs and wants. And once we have done the work of looking inward […]
Myth Busters: 50 Shades Edition
Hello! Just a friendly neighborhood kinkster here, and I’d like to lay out a few common misconceptions I hear now and then based around what it means to be kinky. Let’s start! Myth #1: Kink = Sex My Two Cents: Can it? Yes! Absolutely! Does it always? Does it have to? Nope. Storytime! I recently came out […]
Speak Up: Self-Advocacy as a Bottom
This is the first in a three-part series. Bottoms, have you ever been disappointed after kinky play? Have you ever not asked someone to play, or said no because you were too nervous about how it might go? Have you hesitated to end a scene or asked for an adjustment because of how it might […]
The One Thing That Keeps Us from Our Power
“OMG, I’ve gained so much weight—nobody’s gonna be attracted to me!” “What if I can’t get it up? Or I come too soon?” “My ass is NOT cute.” “Of course I’ll be laughed out of a dungeon! I don’t have any experience with this!” Has your inner voice taunted you with these kinds of messages? Or worse? What we […]
